当Rowan William主教将彩带绑在新郎新妇手上的时候，他的祈愿是：What God has joined together let no man set asunder.他最后奉圣父，圣子，圣灵的名公布他们成为夫妻。是的，婚姻是神设立的，需求用毕生来持守那些婚约，不管是顺境照旧逆境，是极富依旧清贫，是例行照旧病魔，都无法使四位分开。那端庄而高雅的婚礼，让自家见状神赐婚姻的爱心；而那美意，让自个儿来看神在开设婚姻时，他自身的荣耀。
When Paul wrote the 11thchapter ofHebrews he wrote of many examples of faith displayed in the OldTestament.Hebrews chapter 11 is sometimes called the “roll call of faith”. ButcuriouslySolomon’s name does not appear in this chapter.
Dear beloved, we are gathering here in the sight of God and in the faith of congregation, to join together this man and this woman in Holy matrimony which is an honorable state, institutive of God himself, signify unto us the mystical union between Christ and his Church, which holy state Christ adore and beautify with his presence…
We are gathered here today in the sight of God, and in the face of this company, to join together (Groom’s Name) and (Bride’s Name) in holy matrimony; which is an honorable estate, instituted of God , since the first man and the first woman walked on the earth. Therefore; it is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently and soberly. Into this holy estate these two persons present come now to be joined. If any one can show just cause why they may not be lawfully joined together, let them speak now or forever hold their peace。
The King of Israel was expressly commanded not to take many wives in Deuteronomy 17:17:
I (Bride’s Name) take thee (Groom’s Name) to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, honor, and cherish, ’til death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and there to I plight thee my troth。
最冲动的是，他们在Westminster大教堂的证婚典礼，向全球人公布，婚姻是神亲手设立的，是被神祝福的。那可能让众多个人重复审视婚姻的本质与意义。 Dr. John 哈尔l的开场白余音袅袅：
We will be rulers in the Kingdom. Solomon was denied the Kingship of Israel for marrying foreign wives, but we pray that we will be accounted faithful and allowed to be kings and priests in the Kingdom (Revelation 5:10).
Now is our time when we are making ourselves ready for the marriage of the Lamb. A marriage is a well thought out arrangement and every detail is carefully arranged. When a date is set for a marriage the betrothed couple feel excited and eagerly anticipate their wedding day. Now as we prepare for the marriage of the Lamb, we should be eagerly anticipating that day, and preparing to meet our bridegroom. Figuratively speaking, we were given white garments at our baptism and we want to keep them unspotted from the world (James 1:27).
(Groom’s Name) Do you take (Bride’s Name) for your lawful wedded wife, to live together after God’s ordinance, in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love, honor, comfort, and cherish her from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto her for as long as you both shall live?
I (Groom’s Name) take thee (Bride’s Name) to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, honor, and cherish, ’til death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and there to I plight thee my troth。
When God made Adam, he said in Genesis 2 verse 18: “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him”. God recognised that the man needed a suitable partner, but he only made one wife. God could have made Adam many wives, but the Divine decree was that he was only to have one wife. Malachi comments on this in Malachi chapter 2 verse 15: “And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth”
(Bride’s Name)， do you take (Groom’s Name) for your lawful wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance, in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love, honor, comfort, and cherish him from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto him for as long as you both shall live?
In our race to the Kingdom we must have our eyes focussed on the Lord Jesus Christ who has run before us and finished the race. Jesus was able to fully dedicate his life to God even though it meant a horrible and painful death on the cross. He was able to stop his mind of thinking of the shame and pain of the cross by thinking of the joy of the Kingdom. We also must carry our cross now, if that means we must remain single to the Kingdom, that is the cross we must carry. The cross we carry now may be shameful and painful, it may not be what we want to do, but we must carry our cross towards the Kingdom. We can overcome, as Christ overcame by setting our minds towards the joy of the Kingdom.
I require and charge you both that if either of you know any impediment why you may not be lawfully joined together in matrimony, you confess it now. Be assured that if any persons are joined together otherwise than as God’s word allows, their marriage is not lawful。
We read in Hebrews chapter 11 of men andwomen of faith who gave glory to God in their lives by their faith. They wereactive in their lives in doing what God required of them. If we are going to bein the Kingdom, it is essential we follow their example and live our lives bythe faith of God.
When the Israelites returned from Babylon they again forsook the commandment in marrying foreign wives, and Nehemiah told them about the example of Solomon in Nehemiah 13:26:“Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? Yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin”.
Verse 2 of Hebrews chapter 12 says: ‘Lookingunto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God”.
Solomon was deemed unfit to be King over the Kingdom of Israel because his wives turned his heart to the gods of the nations. Solomon was given so much by God, but he turned away from the God of Israel. It seems Solomon repented in his old age when he wrote Ecclesiastes,and we pray that he will be in the Kingdom.
Let us now go forward to the Kingdom with the words of Hebrews chapter 12 verse 1 in our minds:“Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us”.
Today we read about the downfall of one of the wisest men who have ever lived, King Solomon. The chapter we read, 1Kings chapter 11 is very sad because Solomon could have established the Kingdom of Israel as God’s Kingdom, but instead he did not do what God commanded him.
Marriage is such an important event that changes our life forever. It is imperative in our battle against sin and the gods of this world that our partner in marriage is walking with us towards the Kingdom. Amos writes:“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos:3
God knew that the King would stray from following the word of God if he chose more than one wife. It may have been acceptable in his culture, and looked well upon by the world to take lots of wives, but God said that he was not to do it. That should have been the end of the question. God said no.
This is because divorce is fundamentally wrong. Jesus said that the marriage between a man and woman is joined together by God in Matthew chapter 19 verse 6:“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder”.
今日，大家读到历史上最有聪明的壹人的停业，他是Solomon王。大家读到的那风度翩翩章，列王纪上第11章是很伤感的一章，因为Solomon王本能够把以色列国（The State of Israel）创形成神的国，但相反，他从没按神的必要职业。
Our Lord Jesus Christ gave his whole life in the service to his Father. Let us now eat the bread and drink the wine to remember this, and to strive to follow his example, carrying our cross now, but with our eyes firmly fixed on the glory that shall follow.
Solomon was the wisest man who has ever lived, besides the Lord Jesus Christ, and yet we don’t read that he could teach even one of his foreign wives about the God whom he worshipped, the God of Israel, but instead his wives taught him about their foreign gods.
The New Testament also clearly saysthat marriage for believers must be to other believers. For example: “She is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord” 1Corinthians 7:39 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkenss? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?” 2 Corinthians 6:14-15
Nehemiah points out to the Jews who had married foreign wives, that even Solomon was caused to sin by marrying foreigners. It is very sad to read of such a great man like Solomon, who we read was beloved of his God, falling so badly for marrying foreign wives. Perhaps Solomon thought he would teach them the Truth, but instead we read inverse 4 that“his wives turned away his heart after other gods”.
The lesson for us is very clear, if such a man like Solomon made such a mistake why would we think that we could have a different outcome if we either marry more than one husband or wife in our lifetime, or marry someone who is not a baptised believer of the God of Israel?
大家在列王纪上第11章里见到Solomon的外邦内人对她灭亡性的震慑。在第9节里，我们看出“耶和华向Solomon发怒，因为他的心偏离向他三遍表现的耶和华以色列国（The State of Israel）的神”。第11节里，大家看看神“必定将你的国夺回，赐给你的官僚”。
When we meet together for our memorial meeting it causes us to think of the glorious time when we will be the bride of Christ. Like a young virgin marrying her long waited for groom, so it will be with us meeting Christ at his return, and being with him for eternity. The believers being likened to a bride on her wedding day is a common metaphor in the Bible, for example in Revelation 19:7-8:
The chapter begins with the words“But king Solomon loved many strange women”. The first mistake Solomon made was taking other wives beside the daughter of Pharaoh (who was a proselyte to the true worship of Yahweh). Although it was the custom of the day for a ruler to take many wives, it is not what God intended for the human race.
前程大家将会在神国中掌权。Solomon因为娶外邦女人而被神否认了他在以色列国（The State of Israel）国的军权，但我们祈求本人将会被算为敬虔的人，在神国里作王，作教化皇（启发录5:10）。
1 Corinthians 7:10
Anything we forsake now for the Kingdom will be worth it when we hear the words of Jesus: ‘Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of the Lord” Matthew 25:21
“For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy:for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ. But I fear, lets by any means as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ”.
The serpent told a lie to Eve which led her to sin, which caused her to be expelled from the garden in Eden. Eve knew what God had said, but chose to disobey God as it was more appealing to her. If we believe the lies of the serpent we too may find that there isn’t a place for us in the Kingdom. We must have the word of God constantly in our mind and do only what it requires of us. The serpent which tells us lies may take many forms, it may be the media, other people, or even our own heart which tells us things which are not in accordance with the word of God.
“And when the LORD thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor show mercy unto them: Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son”.
Having said this, it is true that there may be cases, such as with domestic violence when a couple cannot stay together. God knows our individual circumstances.
We read of the second aspect of Solomon’s departure from God’s commandment in verses 1 and 2 of 1 Kings 11. The Jews were not to marry wives from the foreign nations, as we read in Deuteronomy chapter 7 verses 2 to 3:
And Peter says:“Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives” 1 Peter 3:1
We read of the devastatingimpactSolomon’s foreign wives had on him in 1 Kings chapter 11. In verse 9 wereadthat“the LORD was angry with Solomon,because his heart was turnedfrom the LORD God of Israel”.In verse 11 weread that God‘will surely rend the kingdom from thee, and will give it to thy servant”.
Although it is not recorded that Solomon divorced any of his wives, the principal is true that God who has created us, created us to only have one husband or one wife for life, unless our husband or wife dies. This is mentioned many times in the Bible, for example in Romans chapter 7 verse 3: “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress”.
Although it is important that our wife or husband is a believer, if we were already married when we came into the Truth weare commanded not to divorce our wife or husband, but we should do our utmost to convert them by our way of life. Paul says: “And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband”
“Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away”.
A runner in a race does not compete with extra weights tied to him. He wants to maximise his chances of winning by removing anything which might impede his running to the finishing line. Likewise in our race to the Kingdom we should discard anything which is impeding us spiritually, whether it is friends, a boyfriend or girlfriend who are not believers; television, movies or music which takes our heart away from God; or sport which introduces us to the idols of the world. Let us remove them in our race for eternal life.
“Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine, linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of the saints”
While we wait for our bridegroom to come to the wedding we obviously want to remain faithful to him. If we have false idols in our hearts we are committing spiritual adultery. Paul warned the Corinthians about this in 2 Corinthians chapter 11 verses 2 and 3:
This also shows that divorce and re-marriage is wrong in the sight of God. Jesus also reinforced this idea in Luke 16 verse 18:“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and married than other, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery”.
Nevertheless, if we have children it is important that they are brought up in a 2 parent household with their biological mother and father, if at all possible. This is what God intended in marriage,that a godly seed will be produced. We read this in Malachi chapter 2 verses 15 and 16:“That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away…”